In 1871, the bylaws of the Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority declared that “any lady may become a candidate for membership who shall be of good moral character and above average talent.”
Thank you for writing about this. Most normies have no idea what’s at stake right now. They’re so busy being kind that they’ve betrayed the safety and rights of women and children.
I am old enough to remember the days when boys would snap girls’ bras, comment on our bodies, ogle us, and just generally be creepy, and we were supposed to put up with it and not complain because “he likes you and that’s just his way of showing it.”
We had a brief shining moment when our culture recognized that we were full human beings in our own right and not mere playthings for men. And now here we are, back again, having to submit to sexual abuse to be “nice” and because men want it that way. Boils my blood.
Those days ring a bell- historically speaking, a short time ago. As young males, we all witnessed and some participated in) inappropriate pranks. Bra snapping among the most popular. . Without excusing them, they were intended as prabks, done on "I dare you's" as much as anything. I distinctly recall a sophomore "winning" $10 for a bra snap in chemistry. The 80 year old Nun promptly whacked him across the knuckles with a ruler.
Thing is, he knew it was coming. Even us pubity-immersed, testosterone-raging high schoolers knew it was wrong. There were clear lines the biggest risk takers would never cross. This may sound strange, but it was out of respect. Invading a private space- strictly off limits. Of course, guys wanted access to the women's locker room in a, "wouldn't that be cool!" kind of way. But it was never considered, not because there were rules against it (obviously), but because we grew up understanding respect for b9undaries and privacy, especially in intimate circumstances. If a creep even thought of spying on a class with a sister or friend, that guy was getting his ass kicked
I agree we've made progress in many ways, though we've regressed- hugely- on the big ones, especially in the last few years. The silly pranks weren't great. But men understood boundaries. And let's face it, men are the problem here. It's hard to believe a guy could pull off "legitimately" joining a sorority under the guise of acceptance and inclusion then walk around with a boner creeping on girls in a shower. Given the opportunity, there is no doubt in my mind a guy would do this, given social mores where it's not just acceptable, but even heroic. The vast majority of men are going to get turned on by it. At that age, good luck hiding it. It's involuntary
I'm not debating gender dysphoria. Yes, there are cases. Yes, everyone deserves love and care. In the name of a small portion of the population, however, we're trashing women's right to privacy and giving way frankly to invasion. Even pranksters long understood that. Now, they get a green light and coronation. Absolutely shameful
Women need to stand up against this. The person evidently has a lot of will to characterize self in this way and make such an issue. It's bullying and it's not the place to use these young women as props to act out.
I just had a very interesting discussion with my 16 year old daughter who is waking up to the insanity that is taking place. Last year we had a lot of intense conversations, often ending with her in tears and storming out of the room because she thought I was such a Neanderthal for thinking there were only two biological sexes and I was so “unwoke”b, heartless and embarrassing . Over the past year though she has grown up and lot and has started to see a lot of this through different non-woke lenses. She has witnessed classmates changing their pronouns back and forth on a whim and she has seen that a lot of (all?) these kids are just lonely and mentally ill and highly susceptible to social media messaging and while she is compassionate towards them, she is not playing the woke game any longer. Anyway, I read your article to her tonight and she was appalled that this would be allowed at a university. She said something really interesting: she said, “I don’t think men should be allowed in these spaces [sororities, locker rooms, etc] until and unless they have lived at least 15 years as “woman” including being fully transitioned with no male parts. If my little sister who is 8 years old isn’t a considered a woman yet, then that guy in the sorority can’t be considered one yet either.”
Thanks L for your comments and for sharing your daughter’s thoughts too! That’s a really interesting point she brings up. It does seem wiser for a person to demonstrate some long-term commitment before being accepted as “a woman” — it seems odd that anyone can just say one day “I’m a woman” and then be admitted to a sorority to do “whatever.” And she’s right — her 8 year old sister couldn’t just announce that and join a sorority either.
I adore the specificity of "at least 15 years as a 'woman'" - my gosh, yes! So many people are so deeply invested in "just be kind" and (at the more advanced level) "TERFs are Nazis" that they haven't spared a moment to consider how low the bar has sunk for being a "trans woman."
Another excellent post Dolly, and I'll compliment you again on being way ahead of the curve in transgender issues.
Yes, we need to have the conversation NOW. But if conversation doesn't work, as it rarely does these days, then we need to stop it now despite any howls of protest. As I'm sure you've seen after the school shooting in Nashville, the rhetoric has escalated alarmingly. Now we are being told that there is a "trans genocide" going on.
The insinuation of "trans" into every corner of our culture has already gone way too far. It's not simply "kindness to other". It's become a celebration of mental illness, and it needs to stop now, especially in regard to children.
Thanks Heyjude. I agree that it’s become a celebration not just of mental illness but of ***society doing things that keep people stuck in mental illness.*** We don’t do this for any other mental health condition. It’s cruel.
In the mid to late 20th century, most doctors and mental health professionals seemed to understand that people who desired transition were mentally unwell, had issues with self-loathing, had very unrealistic expectations about what “transition” would for them, and were not even “made happy” after transition. This is why transition fell out of favor.
Transition was viewed, if it was viewed as “ever being OK” at all, as a last-ditch effort for people who would not be happy any other way (which by the way, even as a “last ditch effort” for unhappy people, it was typically not successful).
Now I guess those doctors and mental health professionals who understood transition was useless at best and harmful at worst are mostly dead, and so is everything they learned in the last century.
Meanwhile the fetish of wishing oneself a woman still exists, and can even be cultivated and induced by exposure to escalating use of certain types of porn.
But now it’s not just extremely unhappy gay men and fetish-sick men who want to transition. It’s unhappy teenagers too, who used to have to suffer through adolescence — growing up can be very hard even in the best circumstances — but are now told there’s an easy fix, which is just another lie.
We have to relearn what we already learned — but at great cost to other people who are already suffering.
In a modern society, it should be impossible to “lose” knowledge gained just a few decades ago. The information was not lost, it was suppressed, and replaced with delusions, for some kind of ideological gain.
Yes it’s not as if we’re writing in stone tablets and those got lost in a cave. The old books, the old journal articles still exist. But people don’t refer to them because they assume “well, they were bigoted then.”
If one takes the time to go read something that psychiatrists had written in the mid-20th century, they’d see that the psychiatrists were noticing many of the same things we see today — for example, the stereotypical stories that all sound the same (like talking points) about always feeling like the opposite sex, playing with opposite sex toys, while no one in that person’s life remembers it that way.
My parents got a Christmas card maybe 15 years ago from longtime friends announcing their son Jeffery had transitioned to Susan. I knew Jeffery well when we were elementary age. He was an unusual kid, introverted, very nerdy and high maintenance. Something seemed off. He turned into a high achieving ivy leaguer, still awkward, though I didn't see him much after that
The family described the process similar to what you wrote above, Dolly- a last resort after years of counseling and therapy. The letter stood out because it was an unusual procedure, just back in the mid-2000's. It's not a Christmas letter one expects, but knowing Jeffery, we all kind of nodded heads
That approach seems like a lifetime ago now. Jeffery would have been late 30's when he transitioned. I knew little about it then (still don't other than It's unavoidable today), but it was well understood to be a long thoughtful process, with support. His family was involved throughout the journey. Full transition was reserved for those rare cases like Jeffrey's, certainly not anything for children whose mental, physical and psychological characteristics were far from developed
You coming from the more liberal side of the spectrum, I'm honestly curious why issues like this get pushed into the center of the platform so quickly. How is it that we can go decades treating this as it was in Jeffrey's case- reasoned, thoughtful, caring- and within a few years, it's OK for 12 year Olds to start the process with little vetting or safeguards? And if you happen to want to pump the breaks to find out what's driving it, you're a transphobe who wants them erased from earth? I certainly don't want that, nor do any other libertarian type conservatives I know. What do you believe is driving these issues to the forefront so rapidly? Thank you as always for another well done article
Good questions. Gender dysphoria is a real condition but is very rare & safeguards were in place to ensure transitioning was the right treatment. I think the biggest problem is that it has been politicized by both parties. Facts and reason get lost in the propaganda. Scandinavian nations, known for liberalism as well the UK are now taking a step back based on real valid studies. Problem in usa is extremist on both sides, many profiting from the controversy , pushing thier agenda for notoriety and financial gain. Each exaggerating the issue, it still a very small minority that transition, teen suicide rates have not changed in decades despite the greater acceptance of transgenderism, & worse the people who need real help are not getting the help they need & become pawns in a political battle.
I don't care if he/she identifies as a transgender woman - fine go for it, figure out if it fits your calling, makes you happy, but don't bother me as it doesn't matter to me as it does to you.
But! What is this silly stuff mixing biological sexes in certain situations. Really, come on we have thousands of years of "data" how that can work.
Just outright stupid that it takes so much to get someone removed from a place like this. This narcissistic, toxic compassion is starting to get annoying.
What are we doing? Why are we suddenly letting one person, disregarding if it illness or not (another topic), to influence or better said control so many people and negatively affect their lives.
Just handle it like humans did in smaller settlements. Remove friction, use common sense and basic human sociability.
I agree completely “Just outright stupid that it takes so much to get someone removed from a place like this. This narcissistic, toxic compassion is starting to get annoying.”
Absolutely. Identify how you like. But please don't demand that every social system and every individual bend to your whim when it comes to socially recognizing your identity. That was never the case with old-school transsexuals - or at most, rarely so. Now we have bearded males threatening others with cancellation and violence if they're not instantly validated. I was an early adopter of trans rights discourse. I've come the other side of it feeling like a damn fool and furious that the climate is now such that even the mildest dissent means I'm a genocidal bigot.
There are no doubt that there are individuals who suffer from gender dysphoria and find relief in identifying as the opposite sex they were born. But they go thru considerable lengths & medical interventions to do so & most can successfully pass as the sex they identify. But just the proclamation of being a different sex alone should not be the criteria. Nor should the trendy nonbinary identity allow someone access to women only spaces simply because they feel more comfortable among women when they are so obviously male.
Even if you don't consider Dallin a woman (and I do not, at least using the standard definition of the word 'woman'), the problem for these young ladies is that the sorority *does* consider Dallin a woman.
Sororities are a private organization and should generally be free to admit whomever they want. Others within the sorority are free to abide by the rules, or leave.
These young ladies were (understandably!) upset by the decision to admit Dallin, but their recourse is either to leave the sorority, or to push to change the bylaws. I think the judge's decision here was correct, even though I'm not a fan of the overall outcome.
Many thanks for your post. The whole thing has become quite ridiculous. The breaking down of boundaries started a long time ago once families started breaking up big time in the 1960's when I was a child. It left many children vulnerable and distraught.
Children have often been brought up without a father in their lives to set boundaries and discipline them, so they know no better.
Add to that the chemical poisoning of the masses of the people via big pharma vaccines and neuro-toxic drugs and other nasties in the air, food and water and we had a recipe for disaster. So here we are today in a right old mess.
As regards Dallin Artemis Langford I not with some amusement and amazement that the single longest anagram word from his name is 'transmogrified'!
A full anagram is 'all land transmogrified'. There are quite a few other phrases suitable to the situation. These include:
all laddie transforming
all manifolding retards
fond alarming RTL ladies
Ultimately people of both sexes must stand up to this stupidity, but it is very important to understand why we arrived in this sorry state. In the meantime something to lighten the mood I hope. If the ridiculous of it all doesn't wake everybody up nothing will.
Thank you for writing about this. Most normies have no idea what’s at stake right now. They’re so busy being kind that they’ve betrayed the safety and rights of women and children.
It’s unbelievable isn’t it!?
I am old enough to remember the days when boys would snap girls’ bras, comment on our bodies, ogle us, and just generally be creepy, and we were supposed to put up with it and not complain because “he likes you and that’s just his way of showing it.”
We had a brief shining moment when our culture recognized that we were full human beings in our own right and not mere playthings for men. And now here we are, back again, having to submit to sexual abuse to be “nice” and because men want it that way. Boils my blood.
A brief shining moment is right: what happened? How did we lose that progress so quickly and completely?
as a bloke influenced by feminists in the 80s I despair at what women are going through right now.
Yes-- it couldn’t have been imagined in the 80s, could it?
And the energy that is going into this bizzarro world siphons off energy that could go to better outcomes for women.
Yes we need to use our energy in fighting battles we thought had already been won.
Those days ring a bell- historically speaking, a short time ago. As young males, we all witnessed and some participated in) inappropriate pranks. Bra snapping among the most popular. . Without excusing them, they were intended as prabks, done on "I dare you's" as much as anything. I distinctly recall a sophomore "winning" $10 for a bra snap in chemistry. The 80 year old Nun promptly whacked him across the knuckles with a ruler.
Thing is, he knew it was coming. Even us pubity-immersed, testosterone-raging high schoolers knew it was wrong. There were clear lines the biggest risk takers would never cross. This may sound strange, but it was out of respect. Invading a private space- strictly off limits. Of course, guys wanted access to the women's locker room in a, "wouldn't that be cool!" kind of way. But it was never considered, not because there were rules against it (obviously), but because we grew up understanding respect for b9undaries and privacy, especially in intimate circumstances. If a creep even thought of spying on a class with a sister or friend, that guy was getting his ass kicked
I agree we've made progress in many ways, though we've regressed- hugely- on the big ones, especially in the last few years. The silly pranks weren't great. But men understood boundaries. And let's face it, men are the problem here. It's hard to believe a guy could pull off "legitimately" joining a sorority under the guise of acceptance and inclusion then walk around with a boner creeping on girls in a shower. Given the opportunity, there is no doubt in my mind a guy would do this, given social mores where it's not just acceptable, but even heroic. The vast majority of men are going to get turned on by it. At that age, good luck hiding it. It's involuntary
I'm not debating gender dysphoria. Yes, there are cases. Yes, everyone deserves love and care. In the name of a small portion of the population, however, we're trashing women's right to privacy and giving way frankly to invasion. Even pranksters long understood that. Now, they get a green light and coronation. Absolutely shameful
He is a 6', 2 inch, 260 pound man.
Oleksandr Usyk, current world heavyweight boxing champion is 6'3 220 lbs.
That’s putting it into perspective!!
Women need to stand up against this. The person evidently has a lot of will to characterize self in this way and make such an issue. It's bullying and it's not the place to use these young women as props to act out.
I agree with you completely.
It will become The Invasion of the Incels if we don't put a stop to it soon.
Great article - thank you!
I just had a very interesting discussion with my 16 year old daughter who is waking up to the insanity that is taking place. Last year we had a lot of intense conversations, often ending with her in tears and storming out of the room because she thought I was such a Neanderthal for thinking there were only two biological sexes and I was so “unwoke”b, heartless and embarrassing . Over the past year though she has grown up and lot and has started to see a lot of this through different non-woke lenses. She has witnessed classmates changing their pronouns back and forth on a whim and she has seen that a lot of (all?) these kids are just lonely and mentally ill and highly susceptible to social media messaging and while she is compassionate towards them, she is not playing the woke game any longer. Anyway, I read your article to her tonight and she was appalled that this would be allowed at a university. She said something really interesting: she said, “I don’t think men should be allowed in these spaces [sororities, locker rooms, etc] until and unless they have lived at least 15 years as “woman” including being fully transitioned with no male parts. If my little sister who is 8 years old isn’t a considered a woman yet, then that guy in the sorority can’t be considered one yet either.”
Thanks L for your comments and for sharing your daughter’s thoughts too! That’s a really interesting point she brings up. It does seem wiser for a person to demonstrate some long-term commitment before being accepted as “a woman” — it seems odd that anyone can just say one day “I’m a woman” and then be admitted to a sorority to do “whatever.” And she’s right — her 8 year old sister couldn’t just announce that and join a sorority either.
Thanks again for sharing both your thoughts!
I adore the specificity of "at least 15 years as a 'woman'" - my gosh, yes! So many people are so deeply invested in "just be kind" and (at the more advanced level) "TERFs are Nazis" that they haven't spared a moment to consider how low the bar has sunk for being a "trans woman."
Another excellent post Dolly, and I'll compliment you again on being way ahead of the curve in transgender issues.
Yes, we need to have the conversation NOW. But if conversation doesn't work, as it rarely does these days, then we need to stop it now despite any howls of protest. As I'm sure you've seen after the school shooting in Nashville, the rhetoric has escalated alarmingly. Now we are being told that there is a "trans genocide" going on.
The insinuation of "trans" into every corner of our culture has already gone way too far. It's not simply "kindness to other". It's become a celebration of mental illness, and it needs to stop now, especially in regard to children.
Thanks Heyjude. I agree that it’s become a celebration not just of mental illness but of ***society doing things that keep people stuck in mental illness.*** We don’t do this for any other mental health condition. It’s cruel.
In the mid to late 20th century, most doctors and mental health professionals seemed to understand that people who desired transition were mentally unwell, had issues with self-loathing, had very unrealistic expectations about what “transition” would for them, and were not even “made happy” after transition. This is why transition fell out of favor.
Transition was viewed, if it was viewed as “ever being OK” at all, as a last-ditch effort for people who would not be happy any other way (which by the way, even as a “last ditch effort” for unhappy people, it was typically not successful).
Now I guess those doctors and mental health professionals who understood transition was useless at best and harmful at worst are mostly dead, and so is everything they learned in the last century.
Meanwhile the fetish of wishing oneself a woman still exists, and can even be cultivated and induced by exposure to escalating use of certain types of porn.
But now it’s not just extremely unhappy gay men and fetish-sick men who want to transition. It’s unhappy teenagers too, who used to have to suffer through adolescence — growing up can be very hard even in the best circumstances — but are now told there’s an easy fix, which is just another lie.
We have to relearn what we already learned — but at great cost to other people who are already suffering.
In a modern society, it should be impossible to “lose” knowledge gained just a few decades ago. The information was not lost, it was suppressed, and replaced with delusions, for some kind of ideological gain.
Yes it’s not as if we’re writing in stone tablets and those got lost in a cave. The old books, the old journal articles still exist. But people don’t refer to them because they assume “well, they were bigoted then.”
If one takes the time to go read something that psychiatrists had written in the mid-20th century, they’d see that the psychiatrists were noticing many of the same things we see today — for example, the stereotypical stories that all sound the same (like talking points) about always feeling like the opposite sex, playing with opposite sex toys, while no one in that person’s life remembers it that way.
Plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose.
My parents got a Christmas card maybe 15 years ago from longtime friends announcing their son Jeffery had transitioned to Susan. I knew Jeffery well when we were elementary age. He was an unusual kid, introverted, very nerdy and high maintenance. Something seemed off. He turned into a high achieving ivy leaguer, still awkward, though I didn't see him much after that
The family described the process similar to what you wrote above, Dolly- a last resort after years of counseling and therapy. The letter stood out because it was an unusual procedure, just back in the mid-2000's. It's not a Christmas letter one expects, but knowing Jeffery, we all kind of nodded heads
That approach seems like a lifetime ago now. Jeffery would have been late 30's when he transitioned. I knew little about it then (still don't other than It's unavoidable today), but it was well understood to be a long thoughtful process, with support. His family was involved throughout the journey. Full transition was reserved for those rare cases like Jeffrey's, certainly not anything for children whose mental, physical and psychological characteristics were far from developed
You coming from the more liberal side of the spectrum, I'm honestly curious why issues like this get pushed into the center of the platform so quickly. How is it that we can go decades treating this as it was in Jeffrey's case- reasoned, thoughtful, caring- and within a few years, it's OK for 12 year Olds to start the process with little vetting or safeguards? And if you happen to want to pump the breaks to find out what's driving it, you're a transphobe who wants them erased from earth? I certainly don't want that, nor do any other libertarian type conservatives I know. What do you believe is driving these issues to the forefront so rapidly? Thank you as always for another well done article
Good questions. Gender dysphoria is a real condition but is very rare & safeguards were in place to ensure transitioning was the right treatment. I think the biggest problem is that it has been politicized by both parties. Facts and reason get lost in the propaganda. Scandinavian nations, known for liberalism as well the UK are now taking a step back based on real valid studies. Problem in usa is extremist on both sides, many profiting from the controversy , pushing thier agenda for notoriety and financial gain. Each exaggerating the issue, it still a very small minority that transition, teen suicide rates have not changed in decades despite the greater acceptance of transgenderism, & worse the people who need real help are not getting the help they need & become pawns in a political battle.
I don't care if he/she identifies as a transgender woman - fine go for it, figure out if it fits your calling, makes you happy, but don't bother me as it doesn't matter to me as it does to you.
But! What is this silly stuff mixing biological sexes in certain situations. Really, come on we have thousands of years of "data" how that can work.
Just outright stupid that it takes so much to get someone removed from a place like this. This narcissistic, toxic compassion is starting to get annoying.
What are we doing? Why are we suddenly letting one person, disregarding if it illness or not (another topic), to influence or better said control so many people and negatively affect their lives.
Just handle it like humans did in smaller settlements. Remove friction, use common sense and basic human sociability.
I agree completely “Just outright stupid that it takes so much to get someone removed from a place like this. This narcissistic, toxic compassion is starting to get annoying.”
Absolutely. Identify how you like. But please don't demand that every social system and every individual bend to your whim when it comes to socially recognizing your identity. That was never the case with old-school transsexuals - or at most, rarely so. Now we have bearded males threatening others with cancellation and violence if they're not instantly validated. I was an early adopter of trans rights discourse. I've come the other side of it feeling like a damn fool and furious that the climate is now such that even the mildest dissent means I'm a genocidal bigot.
The gentlemen's and working men's clubs had no defence against having women join. A few decades ago now.
Thin edge of the wedge and this is what you get.
I guess that it's actually helpful that this male individual is such a sleazebag, but getting rid of him on that basis doesn't deal to the situation.
I think there’s a world of difference between clubs where business deals are struck, and homes where women sleep and undress.
I agree.
Did any of you read this article about Artemis in todays Washington Post (sharing this as a gift post so you don't hit a paywall):
https://wapo.st/3QgXd5W
There are no doubt that there are individuals who suffer from gender dysphoria and find relief in identifying as the opposite sex they were born. But they go thru considerable lengths & medical interventions to do so & most can successfully pass as the sex they identify. But just the proclamation of being a different sex alone should not be the criteria. Nor should the trendy nonbinary identity allow someone access to women only spaces simply because they feel more comfortable among women when they are so obviously male.
This is a tough case.
Even if you don't consider Dallin a woman (and I do not, at least using the standard definition of the word 'woman'), the problem for these young ladies is that the sorority *does* consider Dallin a woman.
Sororities are a private organization and should generally be free to admit whomever they want. Others within the sorority are free to abide by the rules, or leave.
These young ladies were (understandably!) upset by the decision to admit Dallin, but their recourse is either to leave the sorority, or to push to change the bylaws. I think the judge's decision here was correct, even though I'm not a fan of the overall outcome.
Hello from the UK
Many thanks for your post. The whole thing has become quite ridiculous. The breaking down of boundaries started a long time ago once families started breaking up big time in the 1960's when I was a child. It left many children vulnerable and distraught.
Children have often been brought up without a father in their lives to set boundaries and discipline them, so they know no better.
Add to that the chemical poisoning of the masses of the people via big pharma vaccines and neuro-toxic drugs and other nasties in the air, food and water and we had a recipe for disaster. So here we are today in a right old mess.
As regards Dallin Artemis Langford I not with some amusement and amazement that the single longest anagram word from his name is 'transmogrified'!
A full anagram is 'all land transmogrified'. There are quite a few other phrases suitable to the situation. These include:
all laddie transforming
all manifolding retards
fond alarming RTL ladies
Ultimately people of both sexes must stand up to this stupidity, but it is very important to understand why we arrived in this sorry state. In the meantime something to lighten the mood I hope. If the ridiculous of it all doesn't wake everybody up nothing will.
https://alphaandomegacloud.wordpress.com/2022/12/29/transgender-and-other-trans-words-definitions/
Could not agree more. Well done, 21st