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I read this essay when it first landed in my inbox but I was eyebrows-deep in work at the time. I just want to say thanks for writing it. As a scholar with expertise in the social history of medicine, women, and gender, I agree with every word.

I'm at a loss how to stem the tide among my young-adult students. I do pose questions about the dogma, and I'm intent on doing so in a way that conveys my love for my many gender non-conforming students. But by the time students land in my classroom, they're thoroughly marinated in ideas about gender that kids propagate to other kids on Tumblr, Insta infographics, and now TikTok. Many of the trans-identifying young people have already medicalized.

Even the brightest of my students will parrot things like "trans women have periods" and "there are six sexes." The latter statement came from one of my own kids; we had a talk about what that Y chromosome does, or more precisely the SRY gene, in people with atypical configurations of X and Y. But my kid knows I've been standing up for gender-atypical people since before he was born. Questioning the current dogma in the classroom risks my livelihood, yet I'm doing it as much as I can without so alienating students that they tune me out or get me fired.

I've been caught in a crisis of conscience for five years now and I feel powerless to stop the onrushing train. Twenty years ago, hardly any feminist scholar envisioned that contesting the rigidity of binary gender norms would result in the mass medicalization of children. Why have so many of us gone along with it? Certainly a big piece of the explanation is careerism for those whose research is congenial to the dogma. Possibly an even bigger piece is that anyone who raises questions would immediately branded a transphobe or TERF, pilloried in public, ostracized, and quite likely fired or hounded out of their positions. It's hard to know what proportion of feminist scholars fall into each camp because almost everyone in the latter group is terrified.

If I thought speaking very bluntly in public would save a single young person from unnecessary medicalization, it would be worth getting fired. But instead, I'd be branded a TERF and my arguments immediately dismissed. It's an awful Catch-22. I have been speaking privately with some local mothers whose tween girls have identified as trans, and once publicly on FB with another local mother whose daughter was about to have top surgery. The latter conversation didn't make any difference. But conversations with mothers of younger kids have been helpful to them, I think.

My apologies for barging into an old thread. I just wanted to let you know that I deeply value this essay - as a scholar, mother, and human. Please keep writing about this topic. I'll keep pushing the envelope as best I can in my sphere. It's not nearly enough. It's also not nothing.

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Ryan's avatar

As an ex trans 'woman' I can attest to everything you describe here.

There is no gene that encodes for long hair, dresses, and pronouns, and it's absurd to live life believing that.

I medically and socially transitioned from male to female and lived that way for 4 years.

I'm grateful to have found truth, and found a way out of those destructive thought patterns.

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